Reflections on the Seven Dolours of Mary - preparation for the Feast of Seven Sorrows of Our Lady

"On the Third Dolour - Of the Loss of Jesus in the Temple"

The Apostle Saint James says that our perfection consists in the virtue of patience; "And patience hath a perfect work and entire, failing in nothing" (Jam 1: 4). St. Luke relates, in the second chapter of his Gospel, that the Blessed Virgin, with her spouse St. Joseph, and Jesus, was accustomed every year at the paschal solemnity to visit the temple. When her Son was twelve years of age, she went as usual, and Jesus remained in Jerusalem. Mary did not at once perceive it, thinking He was in company with others. When she reached Nazareth, she inquired for her Son; but not finding Him, she immediately returned to Jerusalem to seek for Him, and only found Him after three days. Now let us imagine what anxiety this afflicted Mother must have experienced in those three days during which she was seeking everywhere for her Son, and inquiring for Him with the spouse in the Canticles: "Have you seen him whom my soul loveth?" (Cant 3:3). But she could have no tidings of Him. O, with how far greater tenderness must Mary, overcome by fatigue, and having not yet found her beloved Son, have repeated those words of Ruben, concerning his brother Joseph: "The boy doth not appear, and whither shall I go?" (Gen 27: 30) 'My Jesus doth not appear, and I no longer know what to do to find Him; but where shall I go without my treasure?' Weeping continually, with how much truth did she repeat with David, during those three days, "My tears have been my bread day and night, whilst it is said to me daily: Where is thy God?" (Ps 91: 4). Wherefore Pelbart, with reason, says, that 'during those nights the afflicted Mary did not sleep; she was constantly weeping, and entreating God that He would enable her to find her Son.' Frequently during that time, according to St. Bernard, she addressed her Son in the words of the spouse in the Canticles: "Show me where thou feedest, where thou liest in the mid-day, lest I begin to wander." (Cant 1: 6). My Son, tell me where Thou art, that I may no longer wander, seeking Thee in vain.
There are some who assert, and not without reason, that this dolour was not only one of the greatest, but the greatest and most painful of all. For, in the first place, Mary, in her other dolours, had Jesus with her: she suffered when Saint Simeon prophesied to her in the temple; she suffered in the flight into Egypt; but still in company with Jesus; but in this dolour she suffered far from Jesus, not knowing where He was: "And the light of my eyes itself is no longer with me." (Ps 37:11). Thus weeping she then said, 'Ah, the light of my eyes, my dear Jesus, is no longer with me; He is far from me, and I know not whither He is gone.' Origen says that through the love which this holy Mother bore, 'she suffered more in this loss of Jesus than any martyr ever suffered in the separation of his soul from his body.' Ah, too long indeed were those three days for Mary; they seemed three ages; they were all bitterness, for there was none to comfort her. And who can ever comfort me, she said with Jeremias, "who can console me, since He who alone could do so is far from me? And therefore my eyes run down with water: because the Comforter....is far from me." And with Tobias she repeated, "What manner of joy shall be to me who sit in darkness, and see not the light of heaven?" (Tob 5: 12).....This sorrow of Mary ought, in the first place, to serve as a consolation to those souls who are desolate, and no longer enjoy, as they once enjoyed, the sweet presence of their Lord. They may weep, but they should weep in peace, as Mary wept the absence of her Son; and let them take courage, and not fear that on this account they have lost the Divine favour; for God Himself assured Saint Teresa, that 'no one is lost without knowing it; and that no one is deceived without wishing to be deceived'. If our Lord withdraws Himself from a soul which loves Him, He does not, therefore, depart from the heart; he often conceals Himself from a soul, that she may seek Him with a more ardent desire and greater love. But whoever wishes to find Jesus, must seek Him, not amidst delights and the pleasures of the world, but amidst crosses and mortifications, as Mary sought Him: "we sought Thee sorrowing," as Mary said to her Son. 'Learn, then, from Mary,' says Origen, how 'to seek Jesus.'

PRAYER
O Blessed Virgin...Thou art the gate through which all find Jesus; through thee I also hope to find Him. Amen.